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S120068 2 All you that will wooe a wench UNKNOWN All You That Will Woo a Wench the same tune UNKNOWN The Same Tune YOu men who are marri'd come hearken to mee, / I'le teach you a Lesson is wise you will bee, A Wife that is vertuous in every respect, / who doth her vow'd duety at no time neglect, O Be not thou jealous I prethee deere Lad, / for jelousie makes many good women bad. [with variation] But be not thou jealous I pray thee deare Lad, / for jealousie makes many good women bad. [with variation] Roxburghe Ballads Editor None None None None Information in this section of the Source Description refers to the original ballad manuscript. 1: 510 1: 511 The Marryed Mans Lesson: / OR, / A disswasion from Iealousie. The Marryed Mans Lesson: OR, A disswasion from Jealousie. The Married Man's Lesson: OR, A dissuasion from Jealousy. Parker, Martin 1634-1634 Iohn Wright the younger

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YOu men who are marrid come hearken to mee, Ile teach you a Lesson if wise you will bee, Then take my advice thats intended for good, and so tis if it bee but well understood: Twill cause you to shun all contention and spleene, that daily betwixt man and woman are seene, I speake against jealousie that monster fierce. and wish I could conquer the Fiend with my verse, O Be not thou jealous I prethee deere Lad, for jelousie makes many good women bad. If thou have a good wife then I thee advise to cherish her well for shee is a rare prize, If shee bee indifferent betweene good and bad, good meanes to reforme her may easily be had: If shee bee so evill that there is few worse, imagin thy sinnes have deserved that curse, Then beare with true patience thy crosse as tis fit, and thou to a blessing thereby maist turne it. But be not, etc. Betweene these 3. winds the good, bad, & the meane, I ground the whole argument of this my Theme, For in them a mans humane blisse, or his woe, doth chiefly consist as experience doth show: Thus is it not counsell thats worthy regard, which teacheth to soften a thing that is hard, And what I intend is in every mans will, to turne to a vertue what seemeth most ill. Then be, etc.
A wife that is good beeing beautifull may perhapps raise suspition that sheel goe astray, O note the fond humours that most men possesse, theyr neither content with the more nor the lesse, For if shee bee homely, then her hee will slight, to such neither faire, nor foule, can yeeld delight, If once heele bee jealous the other hee scornes, theres no greater plagues then imagined hornes. Then be not, etc. A wife thats indifferent betweene good and ill, is shee that in huswifery shewes her good will, Yet sometimes her voyce shee too much elevates, is that the occasion for which her hee hates: A soveraigne remedy for this disease, is to hold thy tongue let her say what shee please: Judge, is not this better then to fight and scratch, for silence will soonest a Shrew over match. However I pray thee shun jealousie Lad, for jealousie makes many good women bad. A wife thats all bad if thy lucke bee to have, seeke not to reclaime her by making her slave, If shee bee as bad as ever trod one ground, not fighting nor jealousie will heale that wound: For marke when a River is stopt in its course, it oreflowes the bankes then the danger is worse. Thy owne good example and patience with all, may her from her vices much rather recall. Then be not, etc.
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A Wife that is vertuous in every respect, who doth her vowd duety at no time neglect, Shees not free from censure, for fooles their bolts shoote as oft at the head as they doe at the foote: A kisse, or a smile, or a Jest, or a dance, familior discour[s]e or an amarous glance, All these as her witnesse envy doth bring, the credit of innocent women to sting. But be not thou jealous I pray thee deare Lad, for jealousie makes many good women bad. A wife thats indifferent if curbd over much, will grow worse & worse for their nature is such, The more thou with rigor dost seeke her to mend, the more theyl persist and grow desperat ith end, And thus from indifferency wanting good meanes, Some wel meaning women turn impudient queans, if goodnesse by beating thou seekst to infuse, For breaking her flesh thou all goodnesse dost bruse. Then be not, etc. A wife at the worst (as I told you before) a drunkard, a swearer, a scold, theefe, or whore, By gentle perswasions, reclaimed may bee, my selfe by experience, but lately did see: A man that with jealousie plagued had beene, when hee the last labour and trouble had seene, Hee cast off his care, and referd all tos wife, who soone left her vices and led a new life. Then be not, etc. I also have knowne a wife handsome and neate, of whom her fond husband did take a conceate, That other men lovd her because shee was faire, though on the contrary, to him shee did sweare:
Hee watcht her, hee eyd her, hee noted her wayes, and once hee ins drink, he a scandall would raise, This usage irregular set her on fier, & so from thence foreward shee provd him no lyer, Then be not, etc. Consider each circumstance with good regard, how oft causelesse jelousie wins due reward, And likewise I wish thee to beare in thy brest, that patience and quietnes still is the best. For if she benought shele grow worse with restraint but patience may make of a harlot, a Saint, If faire meanes prevaile not, thoult nere dot by foule for meekenesse (if any thing) must win a soule Then be not, etc. Now lastly to both men and women I speake, from this foolish fancy their humors to breake, Bee loving and tractable each unto other, and what is amisse let affection still smother: So shall man and wife in a simpathy sweet, at boorde, and at bed (as they ought to doe) meete, All fighting and scratching, and scolding shall cease, where jelousies harbord there can bee no peace. Then be not thou jaelous I pray thee deare Lad, for jealousie makes many good women bad.
FINIS. Printed at LONDON for John Wright, the younger, dwelling at the Signe of the Sunne, at the lower end of Snow-hill, neere un- to Holborne Conduit. M.P.